Surviving the 'One Sided Relationship' Feeling

It's not much fun living in a relationship that feels completely one sided particularly if you're the one left out in the cold...

If you or your partner have unmet needs, here are some tips to point you both in the right direction:

* Try to see things from your partner’s viewpoint: Sometimes we get so caught up in what we’re going through that we forget our partner has their own needs too. When we’re not fully aware of how our actions (or inactions) affect each other, it can really get in the way of feeling close. A little empathy goes a long way in building stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

* Talk about your needs without judging or blaming: It's totally okay to say what you need, but how you say it really matters. If your words come off as critical or blaming, it's likely your partner will shut down or react in anger. And that just leaves both of you feeling unheard.

* Use "I" statements to share how you feel:  Try saying something like, “I'd love some help around the house. It would mean a lot to me because I’ve been feeling overwhelmed.” This keeps things clear and honest, without putting the other person on the defensive.

Positive requests asking for what you do want are easier to hear and respond to, try "I'd really appreciate it if you....", instead of a list of, "You never...".

Most importantly, know that it is possible to build strong, loving relationships in blended families where things can feel especially complicated at times. You're not alone, and I’m here to support you on your journey. For more information on how I'll help you do this please Click Here

Kindest wishes

Adele

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